Are you thankful? Why are you thankful?
I saw this quote the other day about happiness and being thankful. It is above, super-imposed over one of my photos. It got me to thinking. (Yes, advanced warning this post is a flowing stream of consciousness.) How is it we are thankful (and happy) and why?
Being thankful for what you have can be paid forward quite simply. Human kindness, for example.
At fifty, have I lived a perfect life? No, but seriously, who here is without flaws on this planet? Life is a giant learning curve and we learn from our experiences good and bad, right?
I am thankful for my life, especially because it could have ended up so differently than it is now. I got through the ending of an unfortunate relationship (and that is putting it kindly), survived breast cancer, and found the love and life I deserve.
If God and fate hadn’t done a literal lift-out for me a few years ago, I would have been quite literally stuck in a life that would have become rather unpleasant and devoid of love and affection. So I am honestly and truly thankful.
I have discovered that truly unhappy people are quite often very angry people. They have a limited sense of personal accountability and are hyper-critical of everything and everyone around them. The ex-factor and one of his sisters are prime examples. I am truly sorry they aren’t happy, but their continued fascination with my life is well, psychologically interesting while also being creepy and pointless. It’s like they live on their own planet.
Obsessing over me is not only bizarre, but how can they waste so much negative energy? It’s just not healthy and well, life is short and they need to be responsible for their own happiness. It has been almost five years, so why bother? Who cares? I sure don’t.
Will I reference things that occurred during a relationship that spanned nigh on a decade? Sure, it is part of my life experience. I write about all sorts of life experience and other relationships. But why am I responsible for their happiness and/or misery of other people not part of my world? The answer is I am not, but I have accepted they will probably never move on. However, that is their stuck, not mine.
People who are oddly warped like this make me really think about what it is to actually be thankful and happy. I see what my life could have been and what it is now. I have someone who loves me and shares their life with me and are committed to our family. That is a far cry from being with someone who expected commitment but not only couldn’t really share their live, in the end even commit to a cell phone plan.
I am not the only person male or female my age (or younger or older) who has going through good and bad relationships. It’s life. But for some reason, the simple act of being thankful and happy just drives some people cuckoo. Probably because they aren’t either thankful or happy.
The thing about being truly thankful is acknowledging what it took to reach the path of happy. As human beings we are a work in progress, but to be able to roll with life’s punches and blessings is an acquired talent. For me, for that light bulb to go off truly, it took having breast cancer. Having to face your own personal sense of mortality shows you what your true mettle is. It also made me dig deep and look at what I wanted out of the rest of my life and the type of people I wanted to surround myself with.
A dear friend from high school asked us her friends, something interesting today:
“If you were on of 10 people still alive on the planet, how would you live differently?
Would you still wear make up, get dressed up in fancy clothes, put nice things in your home?
In other words, do you do the things you do now to make yourself happy or others happy? “
It might seem overly esoteric and philosophical to some, but you know, I get it. So what would you do? I would continue to do everything possible to make myself and my loved ones happy. I would be thrilled to give up make-up for the most part.
Another quote I read made me think:
“Life isn’t all about the happy times we have. It’s about living through all the challenges life has given us, and all we have ever been through.”
And then there was this cool thing I found on the Tiny Buddha website:Katy Cowan
“If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is.” ~Unknown
Lifestyle. Opportunities. Wealth. Just think how far we’ve come in the past 100 years—especially when you look at what we have today compared with our great grandmothers’ generation.
My great grandmother married very young, lived in the same place her whole life, and had 11 children. She never had a “career” and never got a chance to go on a vacation. Her life was hard, poor, and lacking in any real opportunity.
I wonder if she ever dreamed about moving to another city, or transforming her life, or about seeing the world with just a backpack. I bet she did, but back then there weren’t as many opportunities as we have today…..But when there is a wealth of opportunities, choices, and places where we could choose to live, you’d think we’d all be happy, right? Wrong.
…..We can’t settle on what we already have or be satisfied with what we’ve got because we’ll always be wondering about the next big thing.
It’s called “the grass is always greener” syndrome. We think someone else is having a better time elsewhere. We make ourselves miserable by constantly thinking about the unknown in an endless quest to find happiness.
We lie awake at night torturing ourselves over what we should do next, wondering if we’re missing out on something big. We feel we’re wasting our lives if we’re not doing something more important.
There’s also this sense of time pressure, particularly with my generation who had the saying “The World is your Oyster” drilled into us from a young age.
This means there can be a sense of urgency, because we feel like we’re running out of time and should be doing something greater or somehow we’ll fail.
We also think we’re special and that our lives are destined to be adventurous, thrilling, and hugely successful. And when they’re not turning out that way? We become depressed. We want more. We get “grass is greener” syndrome.
….Focusing on things we don’t have is a recipe for disaster. It only leads to a miserable existence and causes us to forget what’s most important—and that’s what’s happening right now.
As John Lennon once said: “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” And that’s certainly true……Mindfulness helps you to appreciate life as it happens. It stops us from agonizing over what might’ve been or what could be. It just brings us back to the present.….But whenever you feel yourself losing focus and wondering about where you’ll be happy next, bring yourself back to the present, look at what you already have, look around you and enjoy the moments that are happening right now.….Happiness is a state of mind.
Out of the mouths of others, but oh so true.
Life is an evolution. Part of that evolution is how we grow, how we love, how we appreciate life, and a sense of spirituality.
Thanks for joining me on my random flowing stream of consciousness.
Enjoy your weekend and be happy!
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Et tu, Senators Wagner, Eichelberger and Folmer? Republican Senate UNANIMOUSLY voted YEA to authorizing $27,451,323,000 , (about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars) in new borrowing. ? These three borrowing Acts are not good news for the taxpayer: they authorize $27,451,323,000 that is about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars in new borrowing. Debt is deferred Taxation. The Forgotten Taxpayer is disheartened and afraid.
Debt is deferred taxation. More debt means higher taxes in the future.
Tom Corbett signed into law three bills that increased Pennsylvania Debt by 27,451,323,000 , (about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars)
Republican leadership in House and Senate, voting like Democrats, are complicit enablers in increasing authorization of the debt burden imposed on Pennsylvania taxpayers.
Act 127 of 2014 authorizes $6,515,565,000 Road and Bridge Debt
Act 129 of 2014 authorizes $19,154,285,000 Road and Bridge Debt
Act 128 of 2014 authorizes $1,781,373,000 Redevelopment Assistance Capital Budget.
House Republican Leadership, including Mike Turzai, and Senate Republican Leadership and EVERY SENATOR voted YEA to authorizing $27,451,323,000, (about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars) in new borrowing. These three borrowing Acts are not good news for the taxpayer: they authorize $27,451,323,000 that is about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars in new borrowing. Debt is deferred Taxation. The Forgotten Taxpayer is disheartened and afraid. Republicans voted with Democrats to increase debt. How are we to believe the sound and fury of Mike Turzai when he, and Republican leadership, voted to authorize $27,451,323,000, (about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars) in new borrowing?
“Debt payments from the General Fund Budget exceed $1 billion per year; nearly triple what it was 12 years ago.” Republicans voted with Democrats to increase debt. How are we to believe the sound and fury of Mike Turzai when he, and Republican leadership, voted to authorize $27,451,323,000, (about $27 and ½ Bbillion dollars) in new borrowing? Commonwealth Foundation 23 July 2014 House Majority Leader Moves to Reduce Debt Burden ??? This seems odd in light of Majority Leader Turzai’s led the Republican House to vote to authorize $27,451,323,000 new debt. Republican leadership is not leading in reducing Pennsylvania debt even though they are well aware of the problem. Why Not? Who are they afraid of?
Increasing Debt on Millennials does not seem the way to influence voters to support you. Consider this. The Electorate is diverse and complicated but Millennials don’t want to be, and cannot be, dependent on parents forever. It is humiliating and debilitating not to have a productive job and not to be compensated for your efforts to contribute to society
How Republicans Can Win Millennial Voters More Debt won’t persuade them.
Liberty Index 2014 Three Debt Votes
A YEA vote is a vote against economic LIBERTY and against The Forgotten Taxpayer.
Act 127 of 2014 HB 2244 “A Supplement to the act of December 8, 1982 known as the Highway-Railroad and Highway Bridge Capital Budget Act for 1982-1983, itemizing additional State and local bridge projects.“
House vote Act 127 of 2014 2 July 200 YEA to authorize more debt 2 NAY and 1 LVE
Act 129 of 2014 SB 1344 “ An Act providing for the highway capital budget project itemization for the fiscal year 2014-2015 to be financed from current revenue or by the incurring of debt “
House vote Act 129 of 2014 2 July 202 YEA to authorize more debt 1 LVE
Does this mean than money from the Gas and Fuel Tax, Act 89 of 2013 which, if I read the Fiscal Note from the House Committee on Appropriations taxes and spends $7,307,000,000 to $7,584,000,000 over five years. See page 9 chart of Fiscal NoteAct89 of 2013 of the House Committee on Appropriations
The money raised by Act 89 of 2013 gas and fuel tax can be used to borrow money and, in effect, leverage gas and fuel taxes to generate more spending and debt. Debt is deferred taxation so that, in effect, Act 89 of 2013 will cost even more than the Act 89 of 2013 would indicate. Do I understand this all correctly?
Further, given the $7.3 to $7.5 Bbillion raised by Act 89 of 2013 gas and fuel tax was to fix the crumbling roads and bridges falling down, why is Capital spending and capital borrowing needed?
Separately: Capital Budget RACP authorizing debt for Capital Projects
ONE BILLION, SEVEN HUNDRED EIGHTY ONE MILLION THREE HUNDRED AND SEVENTY THREE THOUSAND
If the full authorization of $1,295,000,000 was incurred and bonds were sold at an interest rate of 3,25% the total estimated debt service would be $1,781,373,000 or $89,069,000 each year for twenty years
Act 128 of 2014 HB 2355 Fiscal Note Act 128 of2014 Committee on Appropriations $1,781, 373,000,000 Debt Authorized
“Act providing for the capital budget for the fiscal year 2014-2015; itemizing redevelopment assistance capital projects to be constructed or acquired or assisted by the Department of Community and Economic Development, together with their estimated financial costs; authorizing the incurring of debt without the approval of the electors for the purpose of financing the projects to be constructed, acquired or assisted by the Department of Community and Economic Development; and making appropriations.”
House Vote Act 128 of 2014 2 July 2014 172 voted YEA to authorize more debt; 27 voted NAY to authorizing and 2 were LVE
9 Democrats voted NAY 18 Republicans voted NAY
For list of Capital Budget submissions and grants, see Governor’s Department of Budget Office Redeve Redevelopment Assistance Capital Budget