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'Lest we Forget' Art Show at Harcum College

Ardmore-Merion-Wynnewood Patch - Thu, 2014-08-21 14:54
The Kevin D. Marlo Little Theatre at Harcum College will be hosting an art show to commemorate the 13th anniversary of the attacks on 9-11.
Categories: Lower Merion

Wednesday's LLWS Game Gets Record Ratings, ESPN Says

Ardmore-Merion-Wynnewood Patch - Thu, 2014-08-21 14:32
Wednesday’s match, which featured female pitcher Mo’ne Davis, was the highest-rated Little League World Series game to air on the network.
Categories: Lower Merion

Haverford School District seen as a good buy in education, study says

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 14:02
HAVERFORD TWP. -- Local taxpayers are getting plenty of education bang for their buck, according to a recent study titled Return on Educational Investment: 2014, by Ulrich Boser of the Center for American Progress.
Categories: Lower Merion

Haverford Police Reports: Suspect jumps from balcony fleeing burglary

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 14:02
2300 E. Darby Road on August 19 at 2:20 p.m.– Police responded to Eagle Tower Apartments for a report of an interrupted burglary. Victim reported observing a black male subject inside of his apartment. The victim confronted the suspect who fled the area after jumping from a second story balcony, investigation continuing.
Categories: Lower Merion

Haverford School District seen as a good buy in education, study says

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 12:06
HAVERFORD TWP. -- Local taxpayers are getting plenty of education bang for their buck, according to a recent study titled Return on Educational Investment: 2014, by Ulrich Boser of the Center for American Progress.
Categories: Lower Merion

Two arrested in alleged theft of Johnnie Walker from Bala Cynwyd liquor store

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 12:05
Lower Merion police charged two men after police say they stole bottles of Johnnie Walker Black from the state liquor store on City Avenue in Bala Cynwyd Aug. 13 at 5:07 p.m.
Categories: Lower Merion

Bryn Mawr Rehab Hospital Program Looks at Distractions Behind the Wheel

Ardmore-Merion-Wynnewood Patch - Thu, 2014-08-21 12:01
"Crusin' Not Boozin' " has been renamed to reflect that teens shouldn't do anything that may distract them while driving.
Categories: Lower Merion

Police: Man charged with assault after alleged punching of another man later charged with DUI

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 12:00
Lower Merion police charged two men following an incident near Walnut and Elm avenues in Ardmore Aug. 13 at 11:23 p.m.
Categories: Lower Merion

Penn Wynne groups come together to fundraise for family of Lower Merion School District employee killed in car crash

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:38
While the surviving family members of a Lower Merion School District employee who was killed in a car crash last month continues to recover from their own injuries, a fundraiser is taking place this weekend to help the children.
Categories: Lower Merion

mind meandering

Chester County Ramblings - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:27

As I begin this post it has no title.  It is just one of those things I woke up a few hours ago thinking about, so here we are.

I was wondering if as we age we give ourselves permission to be more our true or authentic selves?

Maybe I will just call this post what it is: a flowing stream of consciousness.

Yesterday I was thinking about high school.  I wasn’t part of any special clique, I had friends in all groups.  But I do remember the very real high school pressure to belong to one group or the other. To me, it never felt quite right, so I floated.

I remember girls and guys I knew even back then, and even in a private school, being bullied by their peers in different groups.  Like a very preppy and civilized Jets vs. Sharks.

To this day the memories are so strong for some of these people that they never even come back for reunions.  I work on my reunions so  I think about this stuff when we are planning parties. The funny thing is I realized years ago again how these people who were pack leaders and bullies don’t really matter and never really did.  As a matter of fact when these former pack leaders do show up at reunions I marvel at how little they have changed and it always strikes me as a little bit sad.

It sounds kooky to think that as adults we still can judge from the vantage point of our younger selves, but I have had other friends who also work on their reunions say the same things as me.  As a matter of fact I remember once friend who planned her reunion being all worried about this one group of girls coming to her home as she was hosting the reunion party.  And she has this awesome house and a terrific family of her own and has accomplished so much.  Yet all these years later she was still worried at first until she realized she didn’t have to measure up in their eyes then or now.

What I have noticed is for every stage of life, there are people like that.  Unhappy, malcontented people who essentially seem to like to make people unhappy and/or sit and judge with a misplaced sense of entitlement or superiority.  My ex and some of his siblings are in that category. I am sure they hate being mentioned in my writing (and I have no clue as to why they still follow me) , but they were part of my life experience. And I have never said they were horrible people 24/7 because they weren’t.  There was always just this hum about them, running underneath.

I will admit I never got to know most of these siblings particularly well.  I was never allowed to by my ex, so it was an observer’s existence for me.  In the early years when I would try to get to know them as in call to say hello, or send an e-mail I was always met with an angry wall of “Why are you contacting them? ” so eventually I stopped.  It was funny spending 8 1/2 years with people as “family” with restrictions. What was even more strange, knowing myself, is that became normal to me.

If these people had stayed in my life or I in theirs, I would have ended up an angry and bitterly unhappy person at a minimum.  I didn’t realize any of this until I was out and he had left.  Then, all of a sudden one day a few weeks after he was gone, when I really wasn’t thinking about it, life was better and I could breathe. My point in all this is I had know idea until I was out how much these people had changed me. How I had allowed myself to be changed, as in molded.  This was the first time I had pretty much denied who I was for the trade-off of “fitting in”.  I learned by almost losing myself how bad that is. It’s a crazy realization.

I have noticed that as I get older and water continues to seek its own level, that these unhappy and malcontented types still sort of bunch up together. It is as if they know subconsciously as individuals their weaknesses and ill humor towards others won’t be tolerated.  Maybe it is a pack mentality of sorts?

There is this one group of women, whom I actually don’t know so I can’t say as I understand what is so awful in their lives that they have to be so miserable, yet they are.  They literally meet for tea and scones.  It seems so civilized and sweet and country folksy, only what it is no better than a gossip club.  They rip people up one side and down the other (myself included which is so funny because they have never met me and don’t know me, it’s because I am a blogger and shock and horrors different from them), and for what?  What does it gain them in the end? Nothing.

There was a group like this in my Main Line neighborhood growing up.  The leader kept binoculars on her kitchen windowsill. Her house was up on a hill so with a good pair of binoculars she could check out everyone around her.  If there was a strange car in your driveway, the phone would literally ring and it would be her inquiring as to who was visiting you and why.

The leader and ladies would literally meet once a week with a brown bag lunch.  They would report on the happenings and transgressions and presumed transgressions of the neighbors. They actually called themselves a gossip club, amusingly enough.  It gained them nothing, either.  At first they were sort of feared, eventually they were just ignored.

I guess it just fascinates me that as we age and become more comfortable with who we are, the more people feel the need to question that from the outside.  And sometimes these people don’t necessarily have a strong voice, but they have a loud voice that at first gives the presumption of authority, but eventually all realize they are just loud and self-important. Not truly strong beings to be either feared or emulated.  It gets to a point where you have to stop and turn and think about who are these people and do we really care what they think in the big picture?

The answer isn’t necessarily simple because as human beings it is human nature to want to belong.  But what you realize as you get older is you don’t actually have to belong where you think you do and you will find plenty of people who are happy to know you just as you are.

What I have realized about myself is that over the years I have suffered collateral damage emotionally.  I think we all do indeed suffer emotional damage that to an extent.  It is what you do with that experience that matters.  Do you let it sour you, or do you look at it for what it is: life experience and learn and move forward?

Life is a gift.  If we are alive and kicking, why can’t that fuel happiness?  I guess at the end of the day I will never understand the truly miserable.  It must be sad and exhausting to be them.

Be true to yourself. Or learn to one baby step at a time. People are just people at the end of the day and as adults we can freely choose who it is we wish to be around.

Be happy and learn to breathe freely.

Thanks for stopping by.

 

 


Categories: Pennsylvania

Lower Merion to study building a parking structure at its Matsonford site for more buses

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:24
As the debate over school buses rages on in Lower Merion, school officials are now considering a new plan that could take the highly criticized Bala Avenue project off the table.
Categories: Lower Merion

Update: Repaving of Conshocken State Road in Gladwyne starts Aug. 25; closures expected through mid-September

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:19
Of the local roadways left cratered with potholes after the storms and freeze-and-thaw cycles of Winter 2014, none may have been hit harder than Conshohocken State Road in Lower Merion Township.
Categories: Lower Merion

New attractions, entertainment added to Bryn Mawr Day

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:10
If there is one word to describe 2014’s Bryn Mawr Day – besides “fun,” “fresh,” “family-friendly” and “free” – it’s “expanded.”
Categories: Lower Merion

Lower Merion repaving project set for Conshohocken State Road, 3-week road closure expected

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:09
Milling and paving operations on Conshohocken State Road, between Spring Mill Road and Hollow Road in Gladwyne, are scheduled to begin during daylight hours on Monday, August 25, 2014. Though large parts of the 3.3-mile stretch of roadway will be closed within the work zone areas, the Township’s Public Works Department will make every effort to minimize traffic impact, and the contractor will be urged to finish the work as expeditiously as possible. The operations will include Saturdays and could last through mid-September, depending on weather conditions.
Categories: Lower Merion

Police: Motorcycle, Bicycles Stolen From Wynnewood Garage

Ardmore-Merion-Wynnewood Patch - Thu, 2014-08-21 11:02
Missing are a blue and white Yamaha motorcycle, a white BMX bike and a black BMX bike, police said.
Categories: Lower Merion

Main Line History: Test your knowledge of small Main Line colleges

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 10:56
It’s that time of year when college students are either coming back to town or embarking on their first year of college. 
Categories: Lower Merion

Bryn Mawr Trust CEO Ted Peters retiring, Lower Merion resident taking helm

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 10:56
A change at the top is coming for Main Line icon Bryn Mawr Trust, for only the ninth time in the company’s 125-year history. Plans in the making for many months aim, however, to make the transition seamless.
Categories: Lower Merion

Lower Merion police to crack down on aggressive driving on City Avenue; will increase seat belt enforcement in township

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 10:56
To increase safety on area roadways, the Lower Merion Police Department is cracking down on aggressive driving throughout the months of August and September in the area of City Avenue - and the roadways surrounding City Avenue.
Categories: Lower Merion

Lower Merion enrollment could top 8,000 this year, increasing concerns over bus parking

Main Line Times - Thu, 2014-08-21 09:50
Lower Merion school officials say the district’s total enrollment could surpass 8,000 students for the first time since the 1975-76 school year. The higher enrollment is giving fresh concern the district’s transportation issues as it struggles to find space to park approximately 24 buses.
Categories: Lower Merion

Daily Numbers for Thursday, Aug. 21

Heron's Nest - Thu, 2014-08-21 07:52
The Daily Numbers: 8-1 loss for Mo’ne Davis and the Taney Dragons to Las Vegas last night in Little League World Series. They’re not done yet. If they win tonight they will get a rematch.

3 runs and 6 hits given up by Davis in just 2 1/3 innings of work. She would be eligible to pitch again on Saturday.

34,128 fans who jammed all the seats and the grassy outfield slope to watch the Taney Dragons.

25,157 people who went through turnstiles yesterday afternoon at Citizens Bank park to watch Phillies.

29, age of man busted in ‘Ninja’ attack on his former boss in Upper Providence.

19, age of volunteer firefighter who waived his preliminary hearing on arson charges yesterday. He’s charged in connection with 3 fires.

2 brothers charged in different slayings in Darby Borough and Chester.

15, age of teen a 57-year-old Del. man thought he was going to meet in Delco. Instead he wound up being stung by the Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force.

2 year minimum prison term being sought by local DAs for possession of illegal guns.

75,000 dollar fine for theft of $200 in casino chips tossed out by court in Pittsburgh.

17 billion dollars to be paid by Bank of America in connection with mortgage fraud.

51 UPS stores that say their computers were breached by malware, making some customers’ information vulnerable.

4.5 million patients of hospital in Community Health Systems, including 20 hospitals in Pa., that were breached by computer hackers.

59 point boost for the stock market yesterday.

4-3 come-from-behind win for Phils on day when Cole Hamels was not at his best.

3 runs on 9 hits in just 5 innings for Hamels.

1.75 million dollar value put on the Philadelphia Eagles franchise by Forbes magazine.

185 million, what Jeff Lurie paid for the team 20 years ago.

7th, where Birds rank in terms of NFL franchises.

11 million dollar deal for Bimbo Bakeries to continue as jersey sponsor of the Philadelphia Union.

Call me a Phanatic: A look at the ups and downs of being a Philadelphia sports fan.

The kids from Taney Dragons are not perfect. They lost last night. But they’re not done. It’s a double-elimination tourney and they get another shot to stay alive by winning tonight. If they do they will get a rematch with those kids from Vegas.

I Don’t Get It: Yes, those are the school openings we are listing in the paper today. Summer is coming to an end. I don’t get it.

Today’s Upper: Kudos to Upper Darby police and Mayor Tom Micozzie for throwing a party for local kids with free water ice and a movie. Well done.

Quote Box: “This was a targeted attack. He was lying in wait for this man.”

- Upper Providence Det. Michael Langdale, on ‘Ninja’ attack on township resident.
Categories: Pennsylvania